Family Time, The Life Serum For Family Bonding

One of the most common traits of families that end with breakup is that 99% of those families do not give importance to family time. When counseling couples, family counselors come across this very frequently.

Experienced marriage counseling experts always make it a point to recommend their clients to mark a time for family time in their daily timetable. What you do during that family time does not really matter as long as all the family members are together for that time. Healthy families have quality family time daily and such families seldom have a need to approach a counselor or a psychologist because they have all the tensions and stress eased out during the family time in a natural and healthy fashion.

It is also noted that families with poor bonding often have disturbed children. Parents that look for counseling for children are mostly from families that have no or very little family time. There is certainly a clear pattern or correlation between family time and breakups.

It does not matter whether you are newly married or you have been married for several years now. If you have not been giving importance to family time all along then it is imperative that you review your lifestyle closely and allocate time for your family. Ideally, ‘family time’ should happen every day. If there are practical difficulties in achieving this goal try to make it at least twice a week.

It should not be surprising to see the correlation between family time and drop in breakup rate. Couples breakup only when they cannot stand the company of each other. Unfortunately, in many situations, this gap is an induced gap. First couples stop spending time because they are too busy with their work life and therefore they are unable to give time for family. This over a period of time becomes a normal thing and the couple stops missing the company of each other. This further moves to a stage whereby even if there is a chance to spend time together, the couple start disliking the company. Do not think that this is a farfetched example, this is what is happening in most of the families today.

Wives either working or otherwise looking for counseling for women place this as a frequent complaint to the counselor. They would not have had quality family time for years but they merely co-exist under the same roof.

Family time helps the couples get into the other person’s world and it helps them understand what is going on in the other person’s world. This in turn helps the partners understand why the other person is behaving in the way that they are. When such an understanding is gained then the tolerance level will also be boosted between couples.

If you are in need of professional counseling services in Charlotte, NC, contact the experts at L&B Counseling.

Building and retaining a healthy family involves ongoing efforts. The least one could do to keep the relationship enjoyable and to keep the love burning is to have quality time with your family daily or at least twice in a week. 

Hiring the Right Counselor

At L&B Counseling, we take great pride in the fact that we help people find the right kind of counseling. The problem for most people, though, is finding the right counselor. The techniques offered may be sound, but if the person hired is not compatible or does not work well with the individual in question then it can be a strenuous and difficult process.

How should you go about hiring a counselor, then? What kind of attributes need to stand out to ensure that both patient and counselor can work together in the long-term?

Dedicated

When a counselor and a patient work together, it can be easier for a counselor to get involved if they feel a genuine connection to the problem or to the person that is involved. If you want to make sure this is the kind of treatment that is received, then you should always look to find a counselor who you can see has a genuine connection or interest in the field of issues that you are dealing with.

Working with a dedicated counselor in that specific field can be useful for those who feel they need a genuine specialist involved in counseling.

Always Available

It is important to find a counseling service that is available when you need them. Most counselors realize that the standard 9am to 5pm may not work for most clients. Adjusting hours around peoples work schedules is necessary. Offering hours that are convenient for clients may begin at 7:00am or 8:00am and many offer sessions into the evening until 8:00pm or 9:00pm. Trying to schedule a family counseling session can be difficult by trying to get all the family members together at one time. Make sure you find a counselor who offers hours that are convenient to your schedule.

Appropriate

You have to hire a counselor who fits with your own requirements and hiring one who comes without a background or experience in what you are suffering from is a waste of time. Similar to point #1, try and appoint a counselor that you know has a list of experiences in this in the past; they cannot provide references but they will be able to give you an idea of if they know the kind of problems you could be facing.

Patient

Any good counselor will understand that getting to the end of the process and ensuring that you are happy with what is going on will take time; this means putting in the commitment and effort starting from today to change the facets and the facts of the individuals life. A counselor won’t be able to tell you what to do or make decisions for you, but they can help you find the right answers for yourself.

Don’t work with a counselor who proclaims they can help you get to the conclusion in an instant – it’s just not possible.

Take each of these attributes and apply them to your search – you might find that now you know what to expect from a counselor that you can find it easier to locate the right one for you. It will take time and commitment, sure, but it’ll be much better in the long-term to work with a counselor that you know and can trust.